As I said before, I see the ANSI/ISO film speed ratings as something akin to a stake in the ground, to keep all the players on an even footing. For the b&w pictorial films the ANSI standard, as I recall, simply establishes the amount of light necessary to produce a film "density" of something like 0.10 above the "film base plus fog" when certain conditions have been met. This includes, as I recall, "Photographic daylight" as a light source, and development to some specific contrast value. That's about it. (Aside from some statistical details on the number of samples, and holding conditions before processing, etc.). The required light value is then converted to either an ASA-style or DIN number.
The standard does nothing further... it does not say anything about "correct exposure" for a photograph.
You mention the so-called "sunny 16" rule. It seems like you have a bit of a quarrel with that. However it's not part of the ANSI/ISO standard.
Something that you seem to be largely skipping over is how you, and the others who report on their results, determine what exposure to use. That is, what is their basis for saying that the ASA/ISO film speed is "wrong?" (Or perhaps it is only YOU making the assertion? I dunno.)
I'm guessing that most are using exposure meters. Now, I'm also somewhat familiar with the ANSI exposure meter standard. So I know that this is potentially much more variable than a film speed standard. And there's a bit of a tenuous relationship between this and the film speed standard. The exposure meter standard looks at a somewhat "mid-tone" level of light, whereas the film speed standard is looking at something near "shadow" level. Further, the exposure meter standard allows for the manufacturer to "tweak" the readings somewhat to account for camera-related matters, such as lens flare, etc.
If you were to say that anything was at fault with your exposure issues, I'd say it's much more likely to be related to the meter than to film speed ratings.
All that aside, I don't have any quarrel with your preference for a "thicker" negative. If you like it better, it's your business...your choice. My objection is to your statements that the ISO film speeds are wrong. I think it would be more correct to simply say that you prefer a different EI, Exposure Index, than the ISO film speed.