I'm glad to see this discussion because I too did not know what people were talking about when they use the term "tonality."
It looks to me like it means different things to different people. However, I thought the comment by Bill Burk was insightful. What if we were to extend this idea to something like this. "Nice tonality is when the steepest part of the contrast curve is more or less centered on the subject of interest." The subject of interest could be the face when dealing with portraiture. If it's a face, "nice tonality" might mean something different for a Caucasian face than it would for an East Asian face, and something still different for a South Asian face or African face. Speaking as a non-expert here, you might want to increase development to get better contrast in the toe if you are photographing and African American, and you might want to pick a film/developer combination with more shoulder to avoid blowing out the highlights. Obviously, you wouldn't want to take this to extremes because you don't want to make an African American look white, but you probably don't want to have the African American face to lose so much contrast that it just looks like a dark shadow, so you probably don't want it deep down in the toe.
There is probably something you would want to do with adjusting exposure as well.
Are there any books on optimizing portraiture technique for different skin tones? I might be particularly interested in this because I have some African American nephews and nieces, and it could be good to take some nice portraits of them. On the other hand, most of the family is pretty much lily white, though I do have a Mexican American cousin-in-law who's complexion is quite dark, and a niece-in-law who is East Asian. Then there is one daughter and one grand daughter who's skin tones are fairly light olive, just like my grandmother's skin was when she was alive. (I guess that pretty much covers the gamut of skin tone doesn't it? And in just one family at that!)
Does that sound reasonable?