To the OP:
If you scan, you're not seeing your negative or its tone, but a digital photograph of it, and all you're seeing is the digital tone you got when you photographed digitally your film with a scanner.
All that has nothing to do with real photography. I can tell you every b&w film was designed to "just" reach its best possible image (tone, grain, sharpness) at +1 from box speed. The image is great, yet, even with a bit more light than that. I can tell you from +2 the image starts to lose its best qualities too. At box speed, films produce an image that has more grain than the real film's grain, less sharpness and detail is revealed, and its tone is a bit shifted because of the film receiving half the light it needs...
Let me tell you another thing: I'm 47 and I started with b&w when I was 14, I've built three darkrooms in three different countries, in three different decades, and film's always been the same...
I pushed for 33 years until 2019. This year, I was checking two just developed rolls of an abandoned, rusty car, an old Mercedes Benz... Both transparent sheets with the strips were on the light table, while I checked them with my 22x loupe... I was amazed at the detail I was seeing: even though I could see the sharp tight grain, I could clearly see several very small lines and squares inside each of the car's back stops or red lights, and that's cool for 35mm handheld and ISO400 film when a car is placed several meters from you... I was amazed at the detail, as much as to remember it the next day, so I took my loupe again just to see how can grain produce such definition, and... I just could not see, again, the small lines and squares in the car's back lights... For a moment I felt lost... Then I remembered: I carry two cameras every day, a Leica with a Leitz 35 for good light, and a Konica Hexar AF for low light, and when I was shooting the car with my Leica, the roll was over after a few shots, so I switched to my other camera, the Hexar, and did a few more images (a wonderful 35 too, by the way...), so, I had the same film in both cameras that day, HP5+, and as a general rule I exposed for many years with my Leica (good light) at 200, and with my Hexar (low light) at 1600 (for perfectly metered scenes and best possible development with Microphen, which reaches up to 3200 for wet printing with HP5+ in Ilford pages...). In the end of the story, I learned this year, after seeing side by side both images, pushing changes so much the nature of an image, that we lose all detail... It´s that simple. It's a lot worse than I imagined: I can see the car, I can get an image, but that image has nothing to do with the other one! At all!
Guess what? I stopped pushing in 2019. The reason is I finally discovered it's not really necessary. I can photograph with f/1.4 inside a dark church now. I'll give my film less light than it was designed for, only when I need to lose all detail behind the grain growth. That's why Kodak recommends us not to change development after a -1 photograph, but use the same development time that's the standard for N... That bad is giving poor light and more development!